"One common thing that happens to most of us upon coming out is we lose the community we are part of – or at least lose the standing we had in that community. We fall a bit from the social ladder. Perhaps this is particularly true with white gay men who, until coming out, are at the top of the social food chain. But none of this tells me what the gay community is.
Is the gay community the club kids at the bars looking gorgeous and dancing until dawn? Is it the activists whose feet are swollen from walking the neighborhoods asking for people to consent to our marriages? Is it a singles’ group, a couples’ group, an HIV/AIDS prevention network, a circle jerk, a crafts store, a bookstore, a local church? No, those are all just aspects of the LGBTQ community."
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